Why I will be investing in myself in 2017

A few months ago, for a variety of reasons, I left my job. I was indeed very lucky to have a decent salary after 11 years in the same career, but lately it felt like things weren’t working out anymore.

I didn’t enjoy my time at work, I always felt frazzled and overwhelmed at home, and I resented spending more money on childcare than what I earned! So, after careful and long consideration, I decided to take a break.

And I guess without really admitting that at first, I went after a career change.

investing in youself

My plan was to give myself 2 years to get to a point where I could earn an income from working from home (from my laptop?) during school hours. The 2-year period is simply dictated by the fact that The Little Guy will be mainly at home with me until then.

But me being me, I couldn’t wait to get started on my 2-year plan! I couldn’t wait to make it happen, so I took the jump and a big leap of faith and started my blog with the idea to eventually start earning a bit more money as a freelance writer.

So I went from a decent income, although it was ALL (and more!) spent on childcare, to a very very small income. I went from the relative certainty of a permanent job as an employee to the totally new and not-so-secure territory of being self-employed (more on this another time).

The guilt

And I feel guilty for it.

I feel guilty for not having my old income. Although The Husband has been fully supportive of my decisions, doesn’t put ANY pressure on me, and he’s happy with me doing what I’m doing, not having my old salary seems odd to me.

And I suppose that’s what happens when you go through a big change in your life.

In reality, I think I’m doing something that’s quite brave (or at least I’d say it’s brave if someone else did it). In my mid-thirties, I decided my career wasn’t something I wanted to continue with in this point in time.

I recognised and admitted that I was burnt out and stressed. I was pulled in too many directions and not doing anything well enough. Or not as well as I wanted to anyway.

Something had to give.

I wanted more time. I wanted the luxury to be the one walking my children to school and picking them up at the end of the day. And I want to continue to have that luxury. I want to work of course, but on my terms.

So in 2017 I’m going to invest in myself

I will pay for The Little Guy to spend a few hours a week in nursery in the mornings to have that time to invest in myself.

It all seems counter-intuitive, I know. I don’t even earn enough money to cover my spending, and yet, I’ve decided to spend more money?

If I want my 2-year plan to work for the future, I need to do this now.

The hours I will ‘gain’ by sending my Little Guy to nursery for a whopping 12 hours a week, I’ll use to look after myself, exactly like I said I need to do at the beginning of the year!

So here’s the plan:

  • Recover from my injury (swim and exercise!)
  • Recover from 3 pregnancies and fixing my diastasis recti (more on this later, as I intend to review the programme I’ve chosen to follow!)
  • Learn how to become a professional blogger / run my writing business (more on this too as I start a Blogging category on my website to share my learnings)
  • Increase my formal meditation practice, because in 2016 I just felt I wasn’t ‘with it’ anymore! I was unsettled and stressed. I was always distracted and on the back foot. Pretty much in surviving mode. And it wasn’t sustainable. I had to learn it the hard way by hurting myself and ending up in an ambulance, not once but twice!

And I wouldn’t have the time to do any of this, for now, if I didn’t pay for that little bit of childcare.

Yes, of course I feel guilty. It’s the curse of motherhood, isn’t it? I feel guilty for not earning as much money as I did before and for sending my Little Guy to nursery when I’m here at home. But to be honest, we all know that he’ll have more fun in a muddy garden (he’s going to be going to a Forest School) than following me around the house doing chores!

And let’s be honest – guilt or no guilt, looking after myself is the best thing that I can do for my children and my family right now. I need to keep myself well – I’m pretty sure my very patient Husband wouldn’t be very accepting of another broken leg, and I promise I’ll do my best to stay away from ambulances from now on!

So while I look after myself, I’ll also be working on creating that new career I want for myself, so I’m ready to run with it when I have more time to dedicate to it.

Sounds like a plan, right?

So will you be investing in yourself in 2017? What are your plans? Have you experienced something similar? Did you leave or change your job since becoming a parent to have more flexibility and work-life balance?  
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18 Comments

  1. 14th January 2017 / 11:26 am

    Love the positivity in this, the determination to look after yourself and reach your goals. Self-care is crucial as is doing what makes you happy. Super, empowering post, thanks for linking up x

    • Sara
      14th January 2017 / 11:52 pm

      Thank you Vicky 🙂 Hopefully this year is the year of change for me! 🙂

  2. 16th January 2017 / 12:59 am

    You have wonderful goals and your drive to achieve them will get you there! I am also working on the whole professional blogger thing, it’s a journey i never though would be this hard! But i love it! #bestandworst
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    • Sara
      16th January 2017 / 1:08 pm

      Thank you Brandi! And good luck with your journey to becoming a pro blogger as well! I totally agree – there’s so much I had no idea about!!!

  3. 1st February 2017 / 7:29 pm

    Personally I feel it’s wonderful that you are listening to yourself and taking time to invest in you. #PostsFromTheHeart

  4. Patricia
    2nd February 2017 / 5:16 pm

    Great blog Sara, looking forward to reading about the next leg of your journey😊

    • Sara
      2nd February 2017 / 7:17 pm

      Ah, thank you 🙂 Let’s see how it goes – not much change has gone on in week 1, I must say. In fact, I’m feeling a bit sorry for myself with a massive cold! x

  5. 6th February 2017 / 7:40 am

    Im so pleased you made that decision. I am just on the verge of doing this myself and you make me feel like i can do it. Keep us posted of your journey #postsfromtheheart
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    • Sara
      7th February 2017 / 3:05 pm

      Thank you Becci! Oh that sounds interesting – please do keep us posted too. I probably worry more than I enjoy it, but still believe it was the right choice for us for now. Only life will tell! 🙂

  6. 7th February 2017 / 4:53 am

    Good luck hope everything works out. I’ve made a decision to go part time after having our 4th child. I’m worried we won’t be able to afford it but fingers crossed it will
    Lead to a better work life balance. Hope yours does too. #postsfromtheheart

    • Sara
      7th February 2017 / 3:01 pm

      I’m impressed that you only went part-time after your 4th Jemma! You are amazing for working full time until then! I ‘gave up’ after my third 😉 The money thing really worries me, but hopefully it’ll all work out for the best! Good luck to you and your family!

  7. 9th February 2017 / 6:43 pm

    You’ve made a brilliant decision! I didn’t go back to work after having my first child almost (gulp) seven years ago. I’ve spent loads of money investing in my own personal and professional time and loads of time learning how to live differently, walking my children to and from school and having a good quality of life. You’ll never look back!

    • Sara
      11th February 2017 / 4:45 pm

      Thank you Lucy! Looking forward to talking to you a bit more about what you did / do! I love the sound of having a good quality of life! Amazing! 🙂

  8. 10th February 2017 / 1:16 pm

    It sounds like you’ve got a great plan in place. For 2017 I have signed up to 3 online courses to help me grow with my writing and make some more progress towards my ultimate goal of writing my own book! #postsfromtheheart
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    • Sara
      11th February 2017 / 4:47 pm

      Thank you Tracey! Oh, I’d love to know about the courses on writing and making progress towards writing a book! I’ll be in touch to hear more! 🙂

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